Life is messy!

I have only just noticed that if you are a regular blog reader but not a fan of social media, you may not have heard the news…

Rock + Purl is moving overseas!

Back in November, my husband was told there was a 9-month plan to divest the site he works at, rendering him unemployed by June. Once the dust (and hangover) had settled, we discussed whether he should apply to a job abroad: the employer had a placement in another country that matched his skill set while also offering him a possibility of professional development and growth that we couldn't see happening in the UK.

After 8 weeks of back & forth phone and email interviews, he went over to their offices to meet people there. And when he returned, we got a phone call one night…. And he was offered the job.

We are moving to California!

In detail: East Bay, just out of the San Francisco peninsula.

On a soppy note – I am so proud of my husband. He worked so hard to get this job and I think he will do a brilliant job there.

I am mostly thinking of how I won't be the palest Spanish person ever anymore. There's SUN in California, hooray for tanned legs and not glowing in the dark!

The excitement and questions and communication flow has been quite exhausting. Our families of course need details, but many of these are things we can't yet answer (such as, where are we moving to, really?) while others hang in the air (do we need our grade school reports??). The questionnaires for visas are incredibly long, thinking about moving our home is daunting, and to top all of it off, Brian has spent the last 8 weeks in constant jetlag, while I've also been sick.

Alas, we now have an interview date, and the packing company has come to do inventory on the house, so it is coming close to being a done deal.

I don't think it will be real until we are on a plane without a return ticket attached to our booking, though!

What does this mean for rock+purl as a business?

I am “this-close” to reconciling all accounts in the UK, officially “shutting down” until I can “open up” in the USA once all our papers are in place. This means that, paperwork permitting, there should be no disruption of any kind.

However, with a bit of heavy heart, I am going to let go of an important part of the business. This has been a decision I have struggled with for a while, and in the end, I have reviewed what my goal for this year was – DEPTH, and have realised I can't reach deeply into my creativity if I am being brought down by responsibilities outside my remit.

When you think of something as HUGE as moving abroad with only your partner as a support network, 9 time zones away from family, with the important task of finding a new home to move to, immerse yourself in a new culture, make new friends and place enough love and energy into a stable relationship to ensure it doesn't suffer, you realise DEPTH needs to be placed in 2 places :

where your love is and what your love creates

Where my love is, is at home. My husband and I will make a house a happy home through goofiness, love, respect and laughter. Even in a dumpster. I used to joke I'd marry him even if we dressed in potato sacks and were living in a dumpster.

What my love creates is beautiful knitting and crochet patterns.

Where love does not reside anymore, is in editing. Editing brought me amazing contacts, incredible growth and lots of lessons learnt. However, it has grown beyond my reach.

Work used to be 3/1/1 parts. 3 parts designing, 1 part blogging and marketing, 1 part editing. Recently it's turned into 1/0/4. 1 part designing, 0 parts blogging, 4 parts editing. And I am not enjoying it. My design work is suffering a slower development and poorer quality simply because I don't have time to breathe, artistically speaking. My studio is no longer seen as a place of fun but a place of nose-to-the-keyboard.

I grew too quickly in one area that I had started taking on board as a bit of money on the side. It has grown too big and too monstrous, too demanding and not rewarding.

Tech editing is not giving me depth. It is creating a shallower pool for my creativity. It is not allowing me to give you as much of me as I want.

I will retain my Knit Now editing job, as well as my Knitty editing job. I may take some edits from friends, if they need a hand and I can see myself making time for it.

And I will make a new life in the USA. I will meet new people, gather new inspiration, renew my design strengths and along it all, share more with you.

Because without you, I would not have started designing, and there would be no rock+purl family.

I shall keep you posted on my adventures and how life moves us across the seas! If you've done a big move like this, feel free to comment and tell me what saved your life – much appreciated :)

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  1. Thea   •  

    Congratulations! I used to live in SF and it’s a really wonderful spot to land in. And I hear you on the business decisions – what we do, you need to keep your head in the game and enjoy, so kudos for making decisions that will allow you to do so!

  2. Vanessa   •  

    Bon voyage, buna suerte y bienvenidos a Calicornia (how my mom says it). I think this move will be a great fresh start over for you as you slowly phase out the parts that aren’t working. Think of it as the chance to renew the well of creativity by letting things kinda lie fallow?

  3.   •  

    I’ve not done the big move. But, I have considered one. I think one of the best things to do is visit a few yarn shops or yoga studios or whatever floats your boat when you get there and find your people. Not going to lie, a part of me wishes you were moving to Austin. I’m glad you’re figuring out what gives you joy. :)

  4. woollythinker   •  

    What has saved my life with big, inter-country moves (both times) is social media. But you have that covered. Meeting knitters is highly recommended – but I bet you have that covered too.* And lastly, don’t be shy of the expat cliche: grab any chance you have at a care package containing whatever you love and miss. Marmite, hobnobs, whatever it happens to be for you. It may be ridiculous importing basic foodstuffs of minor importance, but it helps. It’s just nice to have a little bit of home.

    *I wish I did. Babywrangling gets in the way of knitting night. Boooo!

  5. Katie Franceschi   •  

    Moving is fraught with many changes and a whirlwind of emotions – I wish you and Brian much peace in the midst of large changes. I am also really, really selfishly happy that you’re moving to the USA. We’re better off for having you here!

    Though I will miss you as a kick-ass editor, I’m going to love your original designs twice as much. Keep them coming!

  6. The biggest challenge for me moving abroad (Canada – UK, but you already know this Ruth!) was the little differences. Little things like setting up phones, internet, etc…if you can get these sorted for you through your husband’s work it will save you a world of pain and you can have all your virtual support at hand when you most need it.

    I know you’re already experienced in moving to a new country, so really haven’t much else to offer you except my good wishes for an easy move to such a gorgeous new home! Will miss you being near and running into you at the shows! ;-*

  7. penny   •  

    Congrats! I’m excited you’ll be here and working on what you love! (both of you).

  8. Donya K. Kesler   •  

    Hi! Donya Kesler here. I’ve moved a lot, and I’ve done it between several cultures. What I’ve learned living as an “ex-pat” is to expect culture shock and to plan ahead for it. A night when you and your husband can just shut the doors and leave the crazy US world behind and just do something familiar and comfortable for you will relieve so much stress and make it possible to keep going when the honeymoon period is over you can’t stand us anymore. That will come – it always does. Lots about Culture Shock on line. We brought our books and movies and try and get certain food items in when we can for just those times. Hang in there. SF is a lovely place. Blessings!

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